Endings are also very often also “startings”.
When we end a book, we can pick up a new book to start.
When we end one job, we are often starting a new job.
When we leave one home, it is generally to move to another home.
When our children leave home, it is the end of “on-site” parenting, the start of life without them around constantly.
When we lose a loved one, it is the start of life without them.
When we end one activity, we start a new activity.
When I finish one knitting project, I am looking for the next one to start
Even the ending of one piece of writing leaves time to start a new one.
So why do we so often focus on endings? I would rather focus on “startings” – the new opportunities that these open.
One of the endings I experienced, was the sale of the family home after our mother’s passing. It was an auction. The agent was someone who had lived in the street most of his life and had walked past the house on his way to school every day. He knew the house and our mother. At the auction, he talked about growing up in the street. The house sold to a Chinese couple who had a flat tyre opposite the house during the auction – they thought it was a sign and bought the property. It was a double ending…and a double start! The house was sold, so started property ownership by another family. It was the end of the house as they pulled it down and built a new house – start of a new house on the land.
It may have been the end for us, but is was the start for someone else!
As for my knitting projects, there may be some sadness when I complete an enjoyable project, but there is excitement to see the finished project. And anticipation as I start a new project.
So for me, I have decided that for all the endings we experience in life, it is more important to live for the “startings” that result.
Joy Shirley,
November, 2018