Was it traditional? Perhaps. But then again it was not what most of my peers were wearing on the occasion.
It was my wedding day and I did not like veils and trains and such. They just were not my style. I had been a bit of a tomboy as a child, and frilly things were still not my style.
I did not know what to do as far as my wedding dress was concerned. Then I fell in love with a different approach. I was looking for ideas for bridesmaid's outfits, to a large extent to help me work out who to ask. Two close friends were very opposite in colouring, height and shape. What would suit them both? I was out with my mother, but then we found it - my own bridal outfit. We bought the dress I would wear but found nothing for the bridesmaids.
What did I wear? It was white, so yes, it was traditional. It was a simple, straight dress, so not particularly different. But there was no netting veil or train. Instead I wore a long cape and hood, with matching pencil like lace around the hood and the dress. Yes, I wore a hoody to my wedding!!!!
In the end neither of my friends were in the wedding party. I had my sister and soon to be sister-in-law instead. Their outfits were not exactly traditional either. I had to pretty much leave it to them to work out the details as they were both living in Sydney. They were very different in age, but still it worked out. My request was for them to find a pattern for culottes, and I sent them some orange material. Yes, my bridesmaids wore bright orange culottes with white sun hats - no net fascinators for them.
As for my "going away" outfit, again not traditional. I wore a hot-pants suit - hot-pants were in fashion at the time. It was a light beige colour, dressed up with orange bag and shoes. Orange was the theme for the day.
So, strictly speaking I had the traditional wedding of the era, but there were differences. I was not quite rebellious enough to make it totally different, but it felt right for me.
Joy Shirley
April 2018