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'Precious Objects' ...  "My Bob Set and Mum's Vase"

19/3/2023

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​Bob sets require an explanation to the younger readers, so one picture, a thousand words. Below is an advertisement that shows the toy. The mouse holes were numbered and one scored points by passing a ball through the gap, or double points by cannoning off the black. There rules are various and flexible and the largely depend on the distance the ball has to travel to multiply one’s score.
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1959 and as an 8 years old, I’m left alone in the house for a while with the strict instructions not to get the bob set out, but to play in the yard. Mum and my brothers leave…….and who’s to know if I played bobs or not? One is not going to dob oneself in! Herein lies the story, the difference between tacit disobedience and reality.

The bobs were set up in the lounge room, with the back board near the gas fire. Normally played in the hallway, but a 90 turn, shortened the course for a “long” game, so the lounge room it was. On the tiled gas front stood a sentential vase, just another decorative object in the home. Things were going swimmingly with me competing in the “world championships.”

An eight year old does not do a risk assessment. Actions versus consequences, probability and actuality. What are odds? What are odds indeed! Well, the inevitable happened after a lusty shot, the wooden ball aerially departing the safety rails and over the mouse holes directly into and smashing mum’s vase. The vase was beyond redemption and so was I. Packing the bobs away and placing the vase shards in the unaffected base, all I could do was wait my fate.
 
What happened when mum returned is etched in my memory and is one of those moments when wishing the clock could be turned back.

Mum was beside herself with grief and her emotional response was something I had never witnessed or seen in a parent. Two years earlier, mum gave birth to my sister, Jennifer, who did not live out the day due to a hole in the heart. Of all the sympathy cards, mum’s Aunty Susannah Tregenza [nee Beauvais 1886-1966] sent her the vase. This vase had a very special place in mum’s memories and grieving process – and I unlocked the tender grief all over again. It was her most precious object.

I could have sat on sixpence and dangled my legs over the side.

Well, the bobs disappeared forever, but I’ve no memory of how mum recollected her composure in the passing days. Redemption came in 1976 when our only daughter was born and named Jennifer. When we took Jenni to see mum and dad for the first time, mum gave me a hug and thanked me for honouring her own only daughter. She said with a wry smile that it made up for breaking the vase, the only time it was ever mentioned.

 
Graeme Morris
March 2023
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'Triggers'

28/11/2022

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The other week, while rearranging the junk one collects and stores in the garage, I was interrupted and left a stack out of place. Driving the car back in left almost no room for the roller door to close, and me to walk safely behind it when the roller closed.
 
I pulled the lever and the roller started to close. To get back into the house, I had to step outside because the car was in the way. Obviously, one has to be on the right side of quick. Katie yelled out “duck.” This I successfully did, but it fired a memory of my maternal grandfather.
 
When we were very young tackers, my brothers, cousins and I would pile into Grandad’s Vanguard sedan. No seat belts or safety restraints then. When approaching the railway bridge at East Maitland he would yell out “duck.” How naïve and obedient to commands we all were!  We would all duck as we went under the bridge, and this brought great rolls of mirth from Grandad. He would always stop and buy us all an icy-pole, a treat we appreciated and the main reason we got into his car.
 
Years later, I learned the Grandad was an S.P. Bookmaker and during this drive he would visit the few recalcitrant punters that needed a reminder to pay up. I still fondly recall those drives.
 
Well, I must live in a cave because this is the only trigger that has triggered a response, unless Roy Roger’s horse Trigger counts.
 
Graeme Morris
Sunday 27 November
 
 
STOP PRESS  1727 Hours Sunday 27 Nov 2022
 
Assiduously working on my family tree while listening to Hits of the 1960’s, the sounds of “I want to be Bobby’s Girl” fill the room, bringing back a memory of my boyhood barber, Mac. His surname was McMaster, but I only knew him as Mac. Short back and sides Mac, until the College Cut became fashionable, then long hair.
 
Back to Mac. The barbers’ shop was in Josephine St. Riverwood and the El Torro milk bar was next door, on the corner with Belmore Rd. The El Torro was the haunt for teenagers, (read Bodgies and Widgies) had a juke box and from Aug 1962 “I want to be Bobby’s Girl” was relentlessly played, rising to No 3 on the hit parade. Well, the equation
 
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springs to mind, and without boring you with the details it had elements of frequency played, decibel level, brain absorbance v irritability, divided by intolerance of teenage culture and the ratio of Mac’s prejudice to pop music and his temper v fits of pique.
 
Well, one day, poor old Mac cracked it. He stormed into the milk bar and kicked the juke box causing some damage. The Police were called and he ended up in court. He was given a bond and, dad told me later in life, there was a whip around to defray the costs of repairs. It must have been a decent kick.
 
My recollections of this come from overhearing my parents talk about Mac’s demise. I do recall him going crook about the song when it played during a hair- cut, but being 11 at the time, pop music was not on my radar.
 
The only other thing I remember about Mac is he lived in Five Dock, had a son named Arthur and was a rusted-on Labor voter.
Bobby's Girl was a one hit wonder.

Graeme
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'This (Altruistic) Life'

29/10/2022

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The Morris Family Tree recently ticked over 8,000 relatives and one cameo appearance of a second cousin, twice removed, caught my fancy.  At its core is altruism.

Sarah Elizabeth WALKER, known as Craigie, Birrdhawa Country, in the nascent country of Australia in 1904.  Craigie, boasting a school and nothing else, is a farming area 22km from Bombala.  Juxta-positioned near the Black - Allen Line, and on the Monaro Highway, the main route from NSW to Victoria.

Her paternal grandfather was a convict and the only picture of her mother, coming from strong Wesleyan stock, is of her touching a bible.  One strongly suspects her mother's influence, coupled with the mores of the day, made religion a central part of Sarah's life.

Her father, from Sydney, leased land at Craigie and the propinquity theory of marriage holds true, meeting and marrying her mother Clara in 1893 in Bombala.  Whatever the circumstances, Sarah found herself in Sydney as a house maid, later meeting and marrying Ernest DANIELS in 1924.

From 1928, Sarah resided at 16 McFarland Road, Merrylands, now a conurbanised suburb, 25Km west of Sydney.  They had one child, James, born in 1926.  Ernest, a chiar maker, died in 1943 and Sadie did not remarry.

The only information about her life in Merrylands is gleaned from a plaque honouring her.  She and her husband were active and well respected in the community, a meaningless statement with no sources or activities cited.  She was renowned for her fine needlewrk beading and her love of writing, including poety and religious verse.

Sadie dies on 4th November 1981 at 16 McFarland Road, Merrylands and leaves no other mark of her life until the reading of her will.

Sadie bequeaths 16 McFarland Road, now in the middle of the shopping precinct, to Holroyd Municipal Council to be used as an open space for the elderly.  James, her son, does not receive his cadastral inheritance.  One would need to be Sherlock Holmes to fathom the reasons, so it remains tacit.

The bequest's reasons probably has its genesis in the tenuous religious thead previously mentioned.  Did Sadie in her older years have the foresight to see a need for the elderly, and now for all comers?  Perhaps.  The land was developed as an open space in 1985 and refurbished in 2011 to a functional rest area, 'Sarah Daniels Court'.  
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Today 16 McFarland Road is opposite the vast Stocklands Shoping Complex and 220m from Merrylands Railway Station and Bus Terminus.  Well done, Sadie.

Graeme Morris
​October 2022
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